My reflection

     This blog was very intersting. I had a great expierience. Every ones blogs where great. I hope to continue blogging just maybe a different topic. I read many blogs and only a few really interested me. i will tell you about those few.

     After reading everyones blogs i have seen it all. Alexis wrote a blog about sports. it included swimming, hockey, softball, basketball, soccer, and golf. Basketball sounds really interesting and i might try it one day. I also enjoyed the soccer blog. her blogs where full of life and interesting to read.

     Kyneisha talked about training your dog. Her article THE DOG LICKED MY BABY AGAIN talked about a problem that my aunt is having. now i can help her solve it. Her articles helped me alot with traing my dog from the begining.

     Carli wrote her blog about books. I enjoyed reading her blogs because i LOVE to read. She was very interesting whereas most blogs about books about books are boring. I will most likely read her blogs again because they are so interesting.

     Christian wrote a blog about cooking. He had many recipies for all to enjoy. Not all can post a good recipie like he did. He posted many recipies that i will use to cook for my family.

     All and all It was an amazing expierince, writing this blog and all, I really enjoyed this.

Invite Simplicity Into Your Life and Your Relationship

Conference calls, carpools, drive-thru dinners and text-messaged I love you’s make up the life many of us know today. We hurry to get from one destination to another while constantly juggling thoughts of tomorrow and beyond. We spend more time in our cars and with our co-workers than we do with our families. That means spending less time with our partners. We ignore the fact that we see less and less of our significant other and become more and more confused as to why “we don’t communicate anymore”.
What happens when we can’t deny the disconnect any longer, and the effects of an overextended life have drained our relationship of all its life and vibrancy? We go to therapy, we take a pill, we have an affair, or we have a cocktail. As a relationship coach I have an alternative solution to the above.
If you are having difficulty getting back to the simplicity of your earlier days with each other think of a time when your relationship felt uncomplicated. Write down what you liked about that time. Was it your mental state, surroundings, responsibilities or physical stuff? Which feelings and situations would you like to recreate?
Before you can invite simplicity into your relationship you must first simplify yourself. What you are feeling/experiencing as your reality will manifest in your relationship. I suggest we focus on ourselves so that we can create deeper connection to those we love by providing a strong sense of purpose and self to our loved ones.

Some check points for you to acknowledge
1. Find Purposeful work. Do something you love
Do you drag yourself out of bed in the morning to another day of work? The sheer dread of lifting your head off the pillow is excruciating. To invite simplicity into your life, begin by examining your professional life. Find work that is fun and uses your natural gifts. Explore what you are naturally good at and then begin the process of finding a more suitable job. You may find the process alone creates serenity.

2. Give up the news
What you think about, you bring about. And what you focus on manifests in your life. Those can be scary thoughts when you apply them to what you are inviting into your life by reading or watching the daily news. Are you addicted to the drama? The violence and the tragedy do nothing to add to your inner peace. To simplify your life, spend the next seven days away from the news. Instead, read a book, make positive connections with family and friends or listen to soothing music.

3. Learn to say no
JUST SAY NO! Sounds simple, right? For a lot of people saying NO brings up a lot of stuff: Will I be liked? What if they talk about me, Will I go to hell?? Learning to focus on creating healthy boundaries makes our life easier, for example “When the head of the little league association asks you to work the concessions stand, tell her you can’t. Just say no. Spend the time on yourself instead.
When you use good judgment and integrity you will always be about love and acceptance. Saying no from a loving place is much different than saying no from a hateful, spiteful place. Practice developing boundaries and self love. Saying NO could truly save your life!
4. Embrace the outdoors
Nature is therapeutic. It reminds us of what life is really about, and connects us to the simple gifts that we all too often overlook. If you are stuck at the office feeling stressed and frustrated, imagine taking a walk through the woods. Envision a flowing brook. Capture the smell of wildflowers and honeysuckle in your mind. Feel the warmth of the sun on your face. If you’re home, consider the therapeutic benefits of gardening. Even the simplest of gardens can release the stress accumulated in your head, neck and shoulders after a long day of meetings.

5. LOL (Laugh out loud)
Are you too busy to laugh and too serious to smile? Are you caught up in your own sense of importance? Many of us have tucked away the inner child who longs for attention and laughter. Laughing releases a mountain of tension. It’s a quick way to feel happy. When you let go and laugh, it’s infectious. Everyone around you feels it. A good belly laugh makes your belly muscles contract. It causes a chain reaction that works out the shoulders, and leaves muscles more relaxed afterward. It even provides a good workout for the heart. Count how many opportunities you have to laugh today.

6. Be silent
Start a practice of sitting with your Higher Power and asking for a quiet mind. Start your day off with a ritual of reflection and praise. At the office, shut your door for 10 minutes, close your eyes and simply be still. It will be hard at first, but after a few days, you will find yourself feeling calmer and happier than you have felt in a long time. Take time to recharge during your day!

7. Experience Gratitude
Appreciate all the simple things in your life: the sunshine, the sky, the shoes on your feet and the heart beating in your chest. Being grateful creates an energy that flows through your body and shines through your eyes. It’s what makes happy happen. Create a gratitude calendar that is full of simple reason you’re grateful.

8. Create a simplicity statement
Write down your own personal declaration of what a simple life means to you.
A simple life means different things and is valued differently by each individual. For me, it means eliminating all the drama, all the unnecessary “stuff,” choosing peace over chaos, and spending my time doing what’s important to me.
For you it may mean spending quality time with people you love, and doing the things you love. It could mean getting rid of the clutter so you are left with only what really matters to you.

Marriage, Is it for me?

     If you are questioning yourself then you are probably not ready. Marriage is a very risky situation. You always have to ask yourself these simple questions before marring someone: Do I love this person for real?, Is this person the right person for me?, and Do I want to be with this person until death do us part?.

     Do I love this person, for real? If you really love this person then you will get that cant eat cant sleep kinda feeling. If you experience this feeling then you are in love for real. If you can say that you have experienced this one type of love than you are one third of the way to knowing that marriage is for you.

     Is this person the right person for me? If you believe that this is the right person for you then you should have some things in common with this person. Your "partner"  does not have to like EVERYTHING that you like dislike EVERYTHING that you dislike.

     Do I want to be with this person until death do us part? If you answered yes to the other two questions then you are almost done. This is the last question before you are positive that you are ready to get married. Do you want to be with this person for the rest of your life? This is a very simple question and you have to answer it on your own.

     This is a very serious topic that needs to be addressed simply. If you answered YES to all of  these questions then you are absolutely, positively ready for marriage. However, if you answered NO to any of these questions then you are not at all ready for marriage.

Stop-Drop-and-Roll

     Stop-Drop-and-Roll is a 

technique

 that you would use if your clothes where on fire. BUT in this case it is completely different.

     Stop! Stop what you are doing and THINK ABOUT IT. Don't just continue to do what you are doing even though it may or may not be good. Most of the time if you are not sure if what you are doing is good then it is most likely NOT. Consider the fact that what you are doing may be bad  and GET OVER IT. 

     Drop! Drop everything that you are doing and express yourself. After you have made the final decision that what you are doing is good then you are allowed to EXPRESS YOURSELF. In some occasions it is okay to just go all out express yourself. Sow other who you are and what you want to be.

     And! And- is not really a part of a sentence. It is: A, N, and D. Not just and. Okay so i will explain to you what each of these LETTERS mean. A: Always Remember to never say never. Some people say oh I could NEVER do anything wrong. Most of the time these are the people that you have to look out for. N: Nothing is always something. D: Don't forget what I tell you.

     Roll! Kind of like Rock-n-Roll. This is just basically telling you to just be the lean mean cootie queen that is hiding behind your contacts, hair dye, make-up, and fake smile. Do your stuff your own way and don't let anyone stop you from being yourself.

     Thanks for reading really i do thank you. Just in return I hope that you follow my advice and just be your self.

Don't marry..... YET

     Okay you can get married but wait untill you are absolutly positivly ready. This is some important info that you need to know. So read between the lines in your relationship.

Before you get married for           the first or subsequent time you should stop ignoring a reality of marriage and understand the Divorce Rate Statistics: Your Marriage will probably end in divorce.

Although it is not statistically reported, the percentage of people who get married who believe that their current marriage will end in divorce is probably nill, yet even second marriages fail 75% of the time. Why do people ignore divorce statistics? The reason for this is that people so deeply desire what they perceive as the benefits of feeling loved, that they ignore the warning signs of doom. Unknowingly all people will sub-consiously believe or consiously rationalize that:      These warning signs of doom are not really a big deal; Divorce statistics are just numbers and it "won't happen to me"; Things will be different when we are married; They have too much invested to end a "pretty good relationship" supported by the fear of loss; They do not need to work on their own personality and relationship issues; The problem is with the other person, not accepting that they are repeating the same errors that caused disruptions in prior relationships; What they Need is to seek out that dysfuntional relationship resulting from misguided childhood neuro associations about what love is supposed to be, i.e., dysfunctional acts that they subconsciously conclude are acts of love, typically from parental misconduct or maladjustment.      The Divorce Rate represents a condition of society which constitutes a paradigm factor in feeling loved or unloved. Paradign factors affect the way each person in that society will value what they want and need from a relationship.       By understanding how your Values define your needs and wants, you can better evaluate the likelihood of divorce, given how you personally would most likely formulate the Equity of the Deal for you. If you are trying to reconcile or marry again, this insight allows you to become aware of relationship pitfalls, and to better understand and perhaps thereby consiouslydecide what it is that you really want from a relationship, rather than sub-consiously be drawn to a dysfunctional relationship based upon events and circumstances that affected you as a child. If you are contemplating divorce and wondering how to best position yourself to exit the marriage with minimal damage, these concepts are critical in understanding the how timing can lead to either a  sucessful divorce or a contested divorce nightmare.

Don't BE LATE

     I hate when people are late to a meeting or party especially when they are supposed to do something important. They have to be there and then they are late. Right now my friend is mad at me and i just want her to know that since she says i talk too much that i won't talk anymore. I hope she is happy now.

     Okay back to the subject. Never ever be late. People that are late make me so mad that sometimes i just want to push them down some stairs. It is like sometimes I know that they are soposed to be on time and then they are purpusly late. On purpuse.

     This is when you take a chill pill and relax a little. Sometimes people are late because they want you to be mad so you need to trick them and make them feel as if you are not upset at all tjhat they are late then they will nevert be late again.

     If you have huge issues and can't control your anger at all, then you need to literally take a chill pill. Actually go to a doctor and ask them for medicine that relaxes you. You most likely have anger issues. This means that you need to just simpily CALM DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

     I hope that you just take my advise an calm the poop down. Enjoy your life and calm down. now that you get what i am saying the i trust you. Have a great day and enjoy your life.

Do love

     I have decided that i will no longer go in abc order. so here we go. Today we will do a do. okay so today is do Love. It is so importaint to me that u read this.

     Do Love!! Loving has a lot of meanings. It can mean that u are in love or just a pretend love. Today i am going to talk about a lot of different types of love.First i will talk about type one. this is the most favorite part of this blog.

     Type one: I LOVE YOU!!! ok so when u are first starting to date someone you are stuck in the "I LOVE YOU!!" stage. During this stage you call your boyfriend or girlfriend up every five min and tell them "I LOVE YOU!!" this is what we call the cupcake stage.

     Type two: I LIKE YOU!!! OK so this is before u start to date to date them and they are all like "AHH You ALRIGHT!!" During this stage you have a silent but deadly love. This stage makes you hide every thing you belive in so that you dont have to live alone your whole life.

     Type three: ok you are HORRIBLE stage. during this stage u think that this person is so ugly and nasty and mean. This is the stage when No one means any thing to you at all. Plus u need to get out of this stage imedatly. I have decided that you need some serios help.