Don't marry..... YET

     Okay you can get married but wait untill you are absolutly positivly ready. This is some important info that you need to know. So read between the lines in your relationship.

Before you get married for           the first or subsequent time you should stop ignoring a reality of marriage and understand the Divorce Rate Statistics: Your Marriage will probably end in divorce.

Although it is not statistically reported, the percentage of people who get married who believe that their current marriage will end in divorce is probably nill, yet even second marriages fail 75% of the time. Why do people ignore divorce statistics? The reason for this is that people so deeply desire what they perceive as the benefits of feeling loved, that they ignore the warning signs of doom. Unknowingly all people will sub-consiously believe or consiously rationalize that:      These warning signs of doom are not really a big deal; Divorce statistics are just numbers and it "won't happen to me"; Things will be different when we are married; They have too much invested to end a "pretty good relationship" supported by the fear of loss; They do not need to work on their own personality and relationship issues; The problem is with the other person, not accepting that they are repeating the same errors that caused disruptions in prior relationships; What they Need is to seek out that dysfuntional relationship resulting from misguided childhood neuro associations about what love is supposed to be, i.e., dysfunctional acts that they subconsciously conclude are acts of love, typically from parental misconduct or maladjustment.      The Divorce Rate represents a condition of society which constitutes a paradigm factor in feeling loved or unloved. Paradign factors affect the way each person in that society will value what they want and need from a relationship.       By understanding how your Values define your needs and wants, you can better evaluate the likelihood of divorce, given how you personally would most likely formulate the Equity of the Deal for you. If you are trying to reconcile or marry again, this insight allows you to become aware of relationship pitfalls, and to better understand and perhaps thereby consiouslydecide what it is that you really want from a relationship, rather than sub-consiously be drawn to a dysfunctional relationship based upon events and circumstances that affected you as a child. If you are contemplating divorce and wondering how to best position yourself to exit the marriage with minimal damage, these concepts are critical in understanding the how timing can lead to either a  sucessful divorce or a contested divorce nightmare.